I love my life! It’s not perfect, but I am perfectly happy and look for joy every day. How about you?
Now that I’ve got a few articles under my belt I think it’s time to share my personal journey to finding peace of mind. In this article I’ll talk about how good habits and goals changed the course of my life.
I was raised in Connecticut by white-collar parents in a typical middle class 3 bedroom 1 bathroom ranch. I was a lonely kid with very few friends. I had big lips and thick glasses which made me an easy target for bullies. I learned to keep my head down and to be as likeable as possible. I had an older sister who wasn’t fond of having her kid sister around and she’d let me know as often as she could. (As adults, my sister and I are close. She has become my rock, and is an awesome sister!) In school my mantra was keep your head low, so no one notices you. My self-esteem had three degrees: low, lower and lowest. That is how I entered adulthood.
After high school I went to college and received a degree in business. It was during this time (1990 to be exact) that I met my first husband. We have two children together, but split up in 2002 and that’s where my struggles with anxiety and depression began. The guilt and shame of that split-up was almost too much to take and was my trigger. If you are someone who has or is currently struggling with anxiety and depression, my guess is that it started with a major life event such as a divorce.
The Power of Habit
For me the turning point came in November 2013. I was 15 pounds overweight and had decided to hire a guy named Charles Remington, “The Fat Loss Coach” (www.thefatlosscoach.com) to help manage my weight. Although, I wouldn’t say I used food as a way to soothe, I would say that everything I thought I knew about health and weight loss was wrong. This may sound like a plug for Charlie, but that’s not the intent. His plan is just what got me started on the road to fulfillment.
Charlie is a tough, no-nonsense, get it done, health coach. I saw him every couple of weeks for fat measurement and weigh-in. He held me accountable to stay on his program and didn’t make it easy for me if I slipped up. He is a big fearless looking figure, someone whom I knew I didn’t want to disappoint. After 13 weeks I’d exceeded my goal, and lost 21 pounds. I felt so powerful!
Charlie’s eating plan was more than a plan, it was a daily blue print for life. It provided me with clear scheduling and direction of what to do, when to do it, and how. It took all decision making and thinking out of weight-loss for me. I saw steady results every day as the weight literally melted off of my body.
Through that accomplishment I learned a critical lesson about life. Habits, no matter how small, have the power to turn your entire being around. Through the accomplishment of sustained weight-loss I’ve learned that a single success can give you the momentum needed for your next success, and the next, and next. You just have to take that first step!
Are you ready to make a change? What if you created one new positive habit? Perhaps learn to take your coffee black? Why not commit to taking the stairs whenever possible or reading a little each day?
You and only you have the power to make your existence better, permanently! Don’t wait, do it NOW. Do SOMETHING now!
The Power of Goals
The fat loss coach set goals for me, and showed me in step-by-step detail the path to take in order to achieve my goal. Having defined intentions and working to accomplish those intentions had an immediate impact on how I felt about myself. I started feeling good after only my second visit with Charlie. He’d laid out the plan, and all I needed to do was follow it. That gave me purpose! Having a goal and knowing what I’d need to do to achieve it turned my thinking and perception of who I was around. I hadn’t yet lost an ounce but I was focused with my eye on the prize.
Having good habits and working towards goals will turn your entire life around. They can provide you with positivity, energy, and enthusiasm for every single day. Sustained weight-loss was just the beginning for me. If I could accomplish that what else was in store for me? I learned that I can accomplish anything I set my mind to, so can you.
Why not get started today? Do you have any goals, dreams, or a purpose? If not, how about making a goal of figuring out your goals!
Enjoy the journey and be fearless!