Do you ever internally yell at yourself or call yourself names? When you load the dishwasher and drop a plate on the tile floor, what do you think?
My guess is that you’ll say something like, “You idiot! That was our good platter!” What about when you look in the mirror. Are you noticing the deep blue in your eyes or the new deep line across your forehead? Do you say something like, “Ugh, I look so old and wrinkled. Where did THAT come from?”
This is the voice inside your head. We all have one. It’s our friend who joins us everywhere we go. This friend is with us when we are watching TV, driving, working.. this friend who sits beside us 24 hours a day 7 days a week.
Imagine for a moment that this friend is an actual person. My guess is that you wouldn’t be friends with this person for long. I’d imagine after a few comments like the ones above you’d stop meeting for dinner.
So, why would you permit this voice to go on like it does in your head? We all have a natural tendency to be hard on ourselves. It really is true what they say that you are your own worst critic.
Instead of being harsh and critical on yourself, why not try a little tenderness? If you drop the plate on the tile floor, say something like, “It’s OK it happens. It’s just a plate.” What if you did this in every similar situation? How do you think you’d feel by the end of a day with this practice. I’d bet you’d you’d have a better day.
Why not try this today. Every time you make a mistake, instead of using internal negative talk say, “It’s OK Sweetie, it happens.” Use comforting words instead. I think you find it makes a difference in how you feel through the entire day. Try it out, you’ve got nothing to lose, and it takes no additional time out of your day.